5 Ways to Get Back At or Get Back With Your Ex

Relationships can be tricky.  And they can definitely wreck havoc on your emotions – especially when they end.  It is not uncommon for someone to want to get back at their ex after a breakup.  Usually the desire to get back at an ex is not so much about revenge but wanting their ex to realize how great they were together.  So in actuality, wanting to get back at your ex often means you really just want to get back together with your ex.   

If you are really over your ex you should have no desire for revenge or getting back at them.  However, if there are still lingering feelings this may not be the case.  If you are not wanting to get back together and want to “show up” your ex, remember the old saying that “the best revenge is a life well lived”.  Wouldn’t you rather your ex thought of you with regret that you got away rather than relief they were able to get away from you?  So go with living your life in the best way imaginable rather than stooping to petty revenge tactics.  However, if you would like to reconcile with your ex there are some good tips to make it happen.  These five tips can accomplish two things – subtly getting back at your ex by behaving admirably or getting you back with your ex because they see how great you are.  

1 - Be strong.  Coming off as needy or desperate will not attract your ex back into your life.  If anything they will run for the hills and be extremely grateful they were able to break free from your clinginess.  Also if your ex thinks you have moved on they may quickly realize that they have not yet.     

2 - Take communication down to the minimal level.  This tip may seem to defeat the purpose but it really does work.  If you are constantly talking to your ex they don’t get the chance to miss you.   

3 - Be flexible.  Don’t make demands on your ex such as picking up their things by a certain date.  Don’t try to control the situation – instead listen, be responsive and be sympathetic.  Remember the breakup is hard on your ex as well and they will appreciate you being sympathetic to their feelings.  In fact, this can give you an opportunity to communicate in ways you hadn’t before. 

4 – Get out and about!  This is an excellent time to spend all the extra time you now have with friends and expanding your horizons.  Take advantage of all this time to develop new interests and hobbies.  Becoming a more interesting and well rounded person will not go unnoticed by your ex. 

5 – Be true to yourself.  There were reasons why your ex started a relationship with you in the first place!  Be that person who your ex fell in love with at the beginning.  Reminding your ex of that person will spark those new relationship feelings all over again. 

Follow these five tips and you will either feel you have gotten back at your ex by feeling more in control or you will be back together with your ex.  Either way your goal will be accomplished!

The Magic of Making Up is your best guide for getting your ex back!  Check it out here!